Poetic statements on Marriage

Part 3
Wedding ceremony is cost expended,
Romance in marriage is drama acted, but
Happiness in marriage cannot be bought, but
it is also not free of cost
Marriage is like a bed
As you lay it so you lie on it
Make your bed clean and neat, sweat dream become yours and for yours truly
Marriage,
It is not meant for the arrogant too. The stupid and arrogant I tell you will make a mess of boiled egg.

For a marriage to breakup or breakdown, one or both of the partners is either arrogant, foolish or arrogantly foolish.

What is obvious:
It does not matter whether the man is good or the lady is nice, a stupid husband will mess up a clever wife and an arrogant wife will mess up a patient husband.

Way Out and Maintaining Balance:
When the wife notices the husband is angry, let her appease him
When the husband notices his wife is not pleased with him, he should appease her.

That to me is the reason for coming together. So said one of our noble predecessor

With The Name of Allah The Eternally Merciful The Especially Merciful
Living in Harmony:
Never hate each other; never be jealous of each other; never think ill of each other; never boycott each other. Always remain brothers/sisters unto each other, o servants of Allah. (Muslim)

High Expectation:
The families expects so much from each spouse
The friends both wife and husband expects so much
The truth is that it is when both couple are stable the family is said to have built a home. Expectations of people should not be a priority

The Spouses:
The couple rightly so expects so much from the other; Rightly so.
What couple in marriage need to know is that favors from Allah are not evenly distributed. The need for coming together is to compliment one another especially in terms of needs or lacks, and this needs or lacks varies from time to time.
Placing material procession on the front burner
Eventually burn the marriage to ashes

Patience and Tolerance are not evenly available virtues:
While some are easy to please, some are difficult to please while some are very difficult to please
While some are reasonable, some are very sensible and some are very sensitive
The most dangerous a relationship is with a person that is easy to anger and difficult to appease
Choose wisely and pray fervently
Marriage is a potpourri of discoveries. In marriage, there is no surprises

To those that care to listen to voice of reason, being married and remaining married is “work in progress”

Health, wealth, and longevity are as available as Allah (Majesty is His) Wills it and apportion it.

The most intelligent of the two spouse does not determine whom will be financially up

Neither is it the most apparently healthy will be the last to depart the earth, uh, but truth must be told for those who cares to listen.
These are things Allah determines as He pleases.

While you are alive:
The duty of one is the right of the other.
The right of one is therefore the duty of the other

When the expectation is within reason and reliance is on Allah
Your family operates on autopilot whether in scarcity or surplus

Jealousy / Anger is a set back
“Beware of jealousy or anger
For verily it destroy good deeds the way fire destroy dried grass”

What You Need Remember:
“To Allah belongs the dominion of the heavens and the earth
And Allah has power over all things” (3:189)

The Couple’s Prayer among other prayers:
“Our Lord give us in this world
That which is good
And in the hereafter, that which is good
And protect us from the fire of hell” (2:201)

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